Things that every parent must know

If you are a parent or going to be one soon, there are some really important things that you must really understand about parenting.

Parenting is paying your kids fee , letting your kids live in your house, giving them their meals on time.

This is parenting. Now if you are agreeing on these points and think you have fulfilled your responsibility as a parent, just by doing these few things , my friend you are wrong.

Yes Ofcourse these are the primary responsiblity of any parent, but there is a lot more to parenting than this.

Parents must understand that as the world around us is changing , we must also change. Even kids must understand this & they can be made more sensible by social counselling classes in schools, colleges but in India no one pays heed to it. But as parents are more mature as compared to their kids, this responsibility of adapting to change is more on their shoulders. Earlier there were times where there were hardships, less technology and living was really hard but one thing really should be kept in mind. The kids today are more susceptible, more vulnerable to social fears and peer pressure has increased a lot. And for all the negative things.

With so much to deal with, a child really finds it difficult to understand what is for his good and what is bad. What things or company he must avoid and what must he keep. To add more to this comes the generation gap between the parents and the kids. You cant scold your kids all the time and then expect them to tell you everything. All their doubts, all theirs question, all their deep thoughts, everything goes unnoticed. This leads to mental chaos in a child’s mind and he may become confused, susceptible to the negative aspects of society like smoking, alcohol etc. I am not justifying any kind of intoxication or addiction in children, but just want all the parents to understand that talking to your kid, earning their trust, being their friend all this really helps.

Secondly, giving him a place to live in is not just the thing. Every parent must provide their children a safe and healthy environment to live in. An environment that tempts them to learn and develop, an environment that really makes them strong, mentally more than physically.

If a child gets a healthy environment at home, interactive table discussions, someone at home whom they can rely on when they are in confused state of mind and someone who is ready to hear their ideas and feelings, I am sure that we’ll start making a nation that we read or see in fantasy books/movies. I have immense faith in the youth across the globe. When a nation develops a positive environment around its subcontinent countries is created and they start to grow too. This change will migrate ti the entire world but an innitiative needs to be taken.

I won’t put the entire responsibility on the parents. The kids today are really mature and sensible today. They are aware of the change that has taken place in the recent years. They are tech. friendly people. They have an ocean of knowledge and facts out there on the internet.

Its said with great power comes great responsibility and so the power of technology gives them the opportunity to grow. Develop a sense of responsibility and willingness to take the first step. Every parent might not be sensible enough to take the pain of getting out of their comfort zone and work towards a positive environment for their children. I know its a harsh statement but believe me its true. Many dont even realize what impact their decision has made or will make and how is it going to affect their child. They can realize because they cant think like a child. You have to put yourself in someone’s shoe to realize what they might be feeling. This is too hard for some parents. This is what generation gap is all about. Here, children have to step forward and make a wise move to make their parents understand what they actually want.

Change isn’t not an easy job and so I am not putting anyone at fault, but I just want to say that everyone must feel responsible, must feel powerful enough to stir that change and believe me nobody can, if not you and everybody can what just one did.

Have faith in yourself, you are born in an era of power.

Thankyou for your patient listening and i hope you all are ready to make a change.

God be with you.

Youtube is your free career counselor, use it.

Everyday we use youtube, see many videos. What if those videos can help you find your passion in life?

Now whatever we watch is because we find that video fascinating.

For example i personally watch a lot of videos about space and even aeroplanes.

This whatever I watch is where my passion lies. Now i need to find where and how can i gind work in that sector.

We are often lost during the days of our school and have no idea whatsoever to do and not to do, what career choices to make.

There is also lack of inspiration and direction, that youth find very hard to tackle.

There are certain channels on youtube that can help you in these areas, like tedx, ted talks, josh talks in india and many more, such channels are constantly bringing out talents from across the globe and gives them a platform to share their stories about how and what they did that made them successful.

This can be an excellent guide and many people are getting inspired from such channels. I am not so famous but to start writing on WordPress and expressing myself out is one of the things that I learnt from tedx.

We dont even know about many things that are around us and if we use those resources we could do wonders but just because of less knowledge about them we arnt getting the best from life. Tedx like channels also help people to know about these.

If ever you dont have a guide to look up to and you think that its too early to go to a career counselor, then have a look at your youtube history.

Find what are the videos that you saw and saw with full enthusiasm, try those things in your head and google everything about it. if you are really fascinated about it, go ahead and give it a shot, and one thing you will really see and listen to in those videos of all the successful people is that you dont have to ever give up, cuz there are times in each and every persons life where they stoop so low that they can’t even match eyes with themselves, but they refuse to give up. They refuse to say i quite or that i have lost. They fight and they fall down, but they refuse to stay down again and again they stand up and at last they win….

Before giving up just keep this in mind that you have came so far and now when your journey to success is almost reached, you are forfeiting the travel.

What if success is just that one step away that you refuse to take, and quit. While the other person gathers the courage, takes that extra stride and…..wins.

Always remember

“Any battle is not won by the fastest or strongest guy, but sooner or later the one who wins is the one who thinks he can“-anonymous

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By- yagya saklani (ig@yagya_18)